100% agree. my problem isnt with kids wanting to win or lose. they need that. kids who dont have a winning mentality will fail to succeed in sport.Nova wrote:Well said!God is an Englishman wrote:Same at the senior level, I really don't see how it would make any difference at all. I have a son who plays for a Federation side, I play for an Amateur side. Some clubs (including your own) have a side in both amateur and federation.matty2323 wrote:Football in general would be much stronger if it wasn't divided down the middle with the two associations. But unfortunately that's the landscape of football in this state.
I see football like life: sometimes you win 20-0 sometimes you don't get the job because there's someone better. You come back better and stronger and get the next one. I worry that protecting kids from things like this will mean a weaker generation who are not used to winners and losers.
I understand that at youth level, results are less important compared to development but sport needs to teach our kids that there are winners and losers in life.
People have misinterpreted the "winning vs development" argument. It is meant to be aimed at the coaches, not the players. Kids should want to win. They should be rewarded for winning. But as coaches, its our responsibility to ensure development takes place and provide environments where players are given opportunities to succeed. If i pick a squad of 16, i want all 16 players to succeed. If, in a tight game, i tell my "weaker" players they won't be getting as much game time, then the issue now becomes a coach making decisions to win at a kids sport. Coaches placing winning over development.
Its not about kids winning or losing, its about coaches wanting to win at kids sports. Coaches making decisions to ensure the team wins by sacrificing the development of certain players in the environment. That's the "winning vs development" environment. 2 seasons ago my U13 team were in a cup semi final vs AC, and we had equal game policy for the whole season. I continued it in this game and we ended up losing 6-2. The players were disappointed. But at the end of the game i gathered them up and pointed out an AC player who was walking off with his parents while majority of this team mates were celebrating. Why? The young lad had sat on the bench for the whole game and was given 5 minutes at the end when the score became 5-2. You think winning meant anything to that kid on that night?