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How not to deal with criticism

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The England striker Eniola Aluko has hit back at her critics after receiving "intrusive and poisonous" Twitter messages in the wake of the 1-1 draw with Mexico.

The 24-year-old missed three presentable chances during England's opening game of the Women's World Cup in Wolfsburg, the most glaring of which ended with an air-shot inside the six-yard box. But, after a number of abusive tweets directed at her after the match, Aluko was in no mood to take the criticism lying down.

"Comment all you like on me, but when people '@' me and write directly to me, I don't appreciate it," she said. "It's intrusive and it's poisonous. If you're an England fan and you want me to improve for the next game, and write 'You're shit', I don't appreciate it and I don't need it. You can't lace my boots, you're sitting on your sofa behind your keyboard, the next game you'll ask me for my autograph. So don't write shit about me when I'm a good player and I can go into the next game and perform really well."


Does she realize she's playing at the world cup?

If you dont like it get off twitter!

None of them are threats, they are just reactions to her performance, another example of the line between being an amatuer and a professional.
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"hahaha! who are you? you've probably never kicked a ball in your life. Save ur comments for someone else,"

Is she for real??

"I think we all got a taste of what it's like for the men," said Aluko. "It wasn't just about me, people were talking about the team, about wearing the shirt with pride. It comes with the expectation that we now have. But sometimes bad press is good press, and I think that it was surprising to see the amount of people talking about the game. and I think that Twitter is the most powerful social media tool around. So tut you'd like to be spoken about for all the right reasons."


Ahh so twitters just for giving people praise, ok.


Aluko admitted her first miss was "a bit of a sitter"
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paul merson wrote:If you dont like it get off twitter!
Good point.

Better still, don't bother signing up in the first place.
Now, if you're lucky, you could hack through your ankle in five minutes.
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World cup player having a negative reaction from twitter comments and local player having negative reaction from newspaper article... I can't see the difference?!?
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Super_Trooper wrote:World cup player having a negative reaction from twitter comments and local player having negative reaction from newspaper article... I can't see the difference?!?
Really?
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Yeah - I'm in that kind of mood today!! :D

You can't expect in the world of massive normal and social media that players cannot escape positive and negative comments regardless if they ask for them or not.. we are all open to criticism....

Shows too that it doesnt matter if you are world cup player or a local pleb player everyone bites back at some point thats all!
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Very weak!
Both at the world cup and the local levels if all you can do after a bit of criticism is to fold, run away, implode, explode, snap etc you are a weak, weak player. Skills get you only so far. Fitness, athletic qualities and mental strength are very important.
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Super_Trooper wrote:World cup player having a negative reaction from twitter comments and local player having negative reaction from newspaper article... I can't see the difference?!?

Only difference is that one got critizied for kicking too many goals where as the other one got critized for kicking none....
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Super_Trooper wrote:Yeah - I'm in that kind of mood today!! :D

You can't expect in the world of massive normal and social media that players cannot escape positive and negative comments regardless if they ask for them or not.. we are all open to criticism....

Shows too that it doesnt matter if you are world cup player or a local pleb player everyone bites back at some point thats all!
Professional footballers dont bite back, this girls behavior is laughable and all because someone said she was sh t.

Embarassing, can you imagine the repercussion if this had been a member of the mens England team?
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Retired wrote:
Super_Trooper wrote:World cup player having a negative reaction from twitter comments and local player having negative reaction from newspaper article... I can't see the difference?!?

Only difference is that one got critizied for kicking too many goals where as the other one got critized for kicking none....
I think you are still not getting it Retired...local player was criticized for being an a$$ and and thinking the world of herself for scoring lots against a team that concede ten goals per week. Ah, and appearing on a newspaper for that showing off as if it was some sort of achievement. Ppl got upset at the story that made a mock of the game, nobody really cares how many goals someone actually score vs bottom teams.
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Easy Tiger wrote:
Retired wrote:
Super_Trooper wrote:World cup player having a negative reaction from twitter comments and local player having negative reaction from newspaper article... I can't see the difference?!?

Only difference is that one got critizied for kicking too many goals where as the other one got critized for kicking none....
I think you are still not getting it Retired...local player was criticized for being an a$$ and and thinking the world of herself for scoring lots against a team that concede ten goals per week. Ah, and appearing on a newspaper for that showing off as if it was some sort of achievement. Ppl got upset at the story that made a mock of the game, nobody really cares how many goals someone actually score vs bottom teams.

And that is your opinion of the whole thing and I appriciate that..... my opinion is different...
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dare i say....whinging pom?
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Mad_Max wrote:
paul merson wrote:If you dont like it get off twitter!
Good point.
Better still, don't bother signing up in the first place.
Agree
I don't just want to have my cake and eat it, I want to go back for cheesy biscuits and tiramisu.
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[quote="Super_Trooper"]World cup player having a negative reaction from twitter comments and local player having negative reaction from newspaper article... I can't see the difference?!?[/quote]

I question where the negative reaction from the local player is????

Plus has anyone ever heard the saying, dont critisize unless you have walked a mile in my shoes.

I think this applies at all levels.

These athletes try there best, and apart from the elite level (possibly), with little or no help as to how to deal with personal attacks from people they dont know, or even people they do know.

From what i have seen on here in the past, personal attacks seem common,(ie Shorty) to name one, to recent attacks on players and there families.

Now you can all shoot me down, and attack me, and say it is constuctive critisism, and we care about the game, ha ha

All I have to say is instead of being narrow minded and looking at individuals, look at the problem and how to fix that. ie south adelaide being belted each week, not players or teams playing them at fault, just not ready for prems obviously, so how do you fix it???
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Angela Porcu wrote:
Mad_Max wrote:
paul merson wrote:If you dont like it get off twitter!
Good point.
Better still, don't bother signing up in the first place.
Agree
^this
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paul merson wrote:
Super_Trooper wrote:Yeah - I'm in that kind of mood today!! :D

You can't expect in the world of massive normal and social media that players cannot escape positive and negative comments regardless if they ask for them or not.. we are all open to criticism....

Shows too that it doesnt matter if you are world cup player or a local pleb player everyone bites back at some point thats all!
Professional footballers dont bite back, this girls behavior is laughable and all because someone said she was sh t.

Embarassing, can you imagine the repercussion if this had been a member of the mens England team?
your twitter is dead boring!!!!!!!!1
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paul merson wrote:
Super_Trooper wrote:Yeah - I'm in that kind of mood today!! :D

You can't expect in the world of massive normal and social media that players cannot escape positive and negative comments regardless if they ask for them or not.. we are all open to criticism....

Shows too that it doesnt matter if you are world cup player or a local pleb player everyone bites back at some point thats all!
Professional footballers dont bite back, this girls behavior is laughable and all because someone said she was sh t.

Embarassing, can you imagine the repercussion if this had been a member of the mens England team?
your twitter is dead boring!!!!!!!!1
Mine? I dont put anythiung on there, just use it for daily updates on what stupidity Alex McLeish has come out with and what players have left the Villa!

Sorry, I'll see what I can to improve it!
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